Dear Abby (safe)

[TyBull]

Subject: Dear Abby

Dear Abby,

I am a 60 year old woman who is married to a man who acts like he hates me. In public, he pretends he loves me and talks about how wonderful I am. But in private, he shakes his finger in my face and calls me the "B" word. He constantly tells me how ugly I am without make-up. I've tried everything, including a face-lift, Botox treatments, and a chin tuck. I even went on a diet and lost 20 pounds.

He quit his job a few years ago after having an affair with a woman in his office. He hasn't even looked for another job. We haven't slept together since I confronted him about the affair. He denied it, of course, but everyone knew about it. It was humiliating. I believe he is still messing around.

While we both want to sell this house, we argue constantly about when to put it on the market. The house we want will be available in a few months. My husband wants to put our house on the market now. I think should wait awhile. He has already started collecting boxes and packing up his stuff. 

Do you think he is planning to leave me?

Signed, Worried in New York

Dear Worried in New York; I doubt it. He wants to move back into the White House as much as you do.